A System Trusted by 150+ Clients

Start Building a Secure Relationship in 45 Days or Less With My "Built to Last" System

I map out your nervous system patterns, rebuild how you communicate, and give you a shared framework for conflict - so you can stop repeating the same fights and feel like a team again.

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WHAT EXACTLY IS BUILT TO LAST™

Built to Last™ is an intimate, 6 week private coaching program for couples whose relationship is on the line — where she's exhausted and resentful, he's defensive and reactive, and both of you are wondering if you've already waited too long to fix it.

This program is designed for couples who value speed over years of slow-drip therapy. Couples who are done rehashing the same fights in a therapy office and leaving with nothing changed.

Inside Built to Last, I’m not teaching you how to talk about your problems. I’m teaching you how to stop creating them. This isn’t passive therapy, this is a 6 week coaching intensive.

We will start by mapping your nervous system patterns - understanding why you react, shut down, or say things you regret, and what to do the moment it starts happening. 

Then we rebuild how you communicate, so conflict becomes repair instead of more damage.

From there, we build a shared vision that gives the relationship direction and purpose again.

Finally, we tackle the invisible weight of the mental load that's been quietly breeding resentment for years.

Everything is structured and sequenced. You're not guessing. You're not piecing together podcasts and Reddit threads. You're installing what actually works for couples to thrive.

  • "The biggest shift though has been in my relationship with my partner. The nervous system work that you guided me through has helped me show up more steady, more present, and much less reactive. My girlfriend has told me multiple times that she's never felt so safe, seen, and supported as she does now. And also that she's never felt this genuinely safe to be her goofy, weird, authentic self. I'm also noticing her lean into our relationship a lot more, and soften in a really beautiful way. Our connection has deepened in so many ways. And honestly, for the first time in my life, I can genuinely say that I'm proud of the man I'm becoming."

    Chris L.

    Program Client

  • "Working with Ian over the past three months has been nothing short of transformative. Through his guidance, I was able to step into a stronger version of myself. Equipped with more tools, skills and knowledge to navigate the road ahead. Today, I'm in a place of strength, purpose, and peace, and I credit much of that growth to the work we did together."

    Brad D.

    Sales Lead

  • "Hey Ian - I wanted to drop a quick message of gratitude and let you know that the work you do is life changing. I've never been SO supported by my husband in our relationship than I have been since he started the men's group with you. Honestly some days I wonder how we made it to 8.5 years... He's helpful around the house, he's taking care of what needs to be taken care of, and the other day I had something incredibly painful come up — I can't think of a time where I cried so hard. And he showed up in a way I could only imagine in my dreams."

    Stephanie

    Private Coaching Clients Wife

  • "Ian's work on nervous system training has been so impactful for me and others I know in the startup world. It's one thing to understand these principles, it's another to integrate them into daily life."

    Will Simon

    Design Lead @ Headspace, AllTrails + more

Imagine this was your reality 45 days from now.

If ANY of these excite you... we should probably talk.

Fewer Fights, Faster Resolutions
You know how to de-escalate conflict and repair disconnection without losing control of your emotions.

A Safer, More Passionate Relationship
Both of you feel seen, supported, and safe to open again - emotionally and sexually.

A Deep Sense of Leadership at Home
He no longer feels lost and exhausted. He’s clear, grounded, and leading with love and integrity again.

Emotional Resilience
You both can handle stress, triggers, and responsibility without shutting down or blowing up.

A Renewed Vision of Partnership
You’re building a relationship that energizes both of you and is filled with passion again.

A Deep Sense of Safety at Home
She no longer carries the weight of the entire relationship. She can relax and let go and begin to trust him.

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Hey, I’m Ian.

I’m a Trauma-Informed Coach from Squamish, BC, Canada. I’ve been with my wife Julia for 11 years. We have been to depths of hell and back in our relationship, and now we are building something truly special together.

I approach this coaching container from a place of embodied experience, not just some relationship book.

I’ve actually watched my relationship crumble to dust, and rebuilt it from the ground up… so I know what it takes to turn things around.

I've also facilitated men's work and programs where I have worked with over 150 men in crisis in the realm of relationship. From Lulu Lemon execs, to tech founders, to local small business owners, I know what breaks couples down and what builds them back up.

This was designed to do one thing: give your relationship back to you as fast as possible, and then become your new operating system for how you show up to love.

Because the truth is, most couples don't need more sessions. They need a better model, a stronger foundation, and someone who's done this work themselves.

If you're serious about saving your relationship and building something neither of you wants to leave - click below and apply.

If not, no worries. But just know: doing more of what you're doing right now is exactly how you got here.

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How It All Works.

Four steps. Zero complexity.

01 Apply / Book a Call

Quick application to make sure we're the right fit. I have limited spots available each month.

02 Build Your Game Plan

I map your custom roadmap based on where you are and where you want to be.

03 Onboard + Install Systems

Deploy proven frameworks — repair conversations, somatic practices, journaling exercises, etc. All of it.

04 Grow With Support

Rebuild your relationship from the ground up so you can thrive as a couple again.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • 6 Week Private Intensive:

    • 1x Onboarding Call

    • 2× Couples Coaching Sessions

    • 6× 1:1 Sessions For Her

    • 6× 1:1 Sessions For Him

    • Unlimited voice note/text access

    • Access all of my relationship resources and nervous system practice library.

  • Most clients see momentum in 7–14 days. Some move faster. Some slower. Your speed = your effort.

  • Most relationship therapists offer outdated models of relationships. Only about 50% of partners view couples therapy as effective two years in — and 25% feel worse off than before they started.

    I offer a very different approach that is less talking about problems, more about creating an entirely new way of relating to each other. I believe relationships turn around quickly when you have the right tools & support.

  • I guarantee access to a framework that works. I do NOT guarantee results. No refunds. You need to take full responsibility and put in the time for this to work.

  • After 6 weeks, your relationship will be back on track.

    If you want to continue working with me and taking your relationship even deeper, I offer ongoing support for a monthly membership fee.

  • Formal Training/Education:

    • International Coaching Federation ACC (In Progress)

    • Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification - Moving the Human Spirit (ICF Accredited)

    • B.A. Professional Communication - Royal Roads University

    • Certified 200-Hour Hatha Yoga Teacher - Anjeli Yoga Academy

    • 12-Month Embodied Men’s Work Training – Travis Streb

    • 6-Month Embodiment Training – John Wineland

    Other Experience & Training:

    Over the last 7 years, Ian has immersed himself in deep personal and professional development, including:

    • Studying and facilitating in the realms of embodied leadership.

    • Ongoing 1-on-1 coaching with a leadership mentor.

    • Active participation in an embodied men’s work program.

    • Completed over 400 training hours on men’s work intensives, intimacy workshops, and relationship trainings.

    • Building a local community, and leading events and workshops.

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